“Faiattract isn’t fatal, yet failure to adjust might be” – John Wooden
As much as we like to focus on winning, losing is a component of the game.
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So just how should we address a loss?
Well, I ask a couple of local coaches and also athletes for their opinion.
Here is what they had to say...
"I ask them: Did you try as difficult as you can and also you had fun? If the answer is yes, so tbelow is nopoint we deserve to execute about yet save training hard and attempt it aget yet simply a tiny better following time. But if you think you might have done better it suggests you wondered about yourself and this expense you a victory. So either way you learn a leskid that every time you decide contend you have to try to perdevelop through all you have actually and also not holding back bereason you can not be certain of the victory but you have to be sure of your potential." Giva Santana, Lotus Club Jiu Jitsu
"Find Out from your loss. Make sure the mistakes do not occur ever aobtain." Bao Quach, Coach and also Owner of Rounders MMA & Boxing
"There is no shedding , as lengthy as you learn and also flourish from each setback or mistake." -William Kessler, Chiropractor and also Owner OCFightDocs.
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"When someone losses a match i supplied to think you needed to make corrections of their mistakes appropriate than and also there and i watch wrestling coaches still execute it this particular day. Now i leave them alone they feel negative enough losing and letting themselves the coach and also team dvery own as it is. I tell them later as soon as they have actually calmed dvery own that exactly how i watch them and also feel about them is not based upon whether they win or lose. I respect them for being dedicated to the sport. Not to put their self worth in winning. I"m finding out that many athletes now are afrhelp of shedding because they do not want to disapallude their coach. They absence confidence for are afraid of failing us. My brand-new message...I treatment around the guy or woguy you will certainly become bereason of wrestling and also not the wins you get for the regime."Scott Glabb, Head Wrestling coach at Santa Ana High School
"That"s the finest thing that could have happened to you" - Adam Lynn - Professional MMA Fighter and Owner of Subfighter MMA
"For me....immediately after the loss is not the moment I sheight to my athlete ...well...through words, anyway....I just try to offer em a hug, or a pat on the back....then I give the athlete space and time to process what has actually simply occurred. Personally, I do not feel that automatically after a loss as a time to dissect all the mistakes and also errors that may have actually taken place in the fight or the preparation. After a disappointing performance, the last point that an athlete requirements is an prompt criticism of what went wrong. You want to treat athlete in such a method that he wants to come in the direction of your corner after a loss fairly then run amethod from it. You are a support mechanism, his helper, and also periodically the anchor of their training camp. You don"t want to damage these essential pillars of your partnership in a few heated moments after the negative performance. It will print negativity upon your voice in the direction of the athlete, and also additionally make the athletes disdain competition in general. Competition in general has its own natural stresses and also anxieties that come together with it. You do not have to add your (coaching) voice to those anxieties. Conversely, I do not think it"s appropriate to tell the athlete that "oh, it"s okay, that does not suppose anypoint, etc". To me, that would certainly interact devaluing their performance and also the investment made towards that competition. Trying to make the athlete feel like "it doesn"t matter" simply to make him feel emotionally much better at the minute is not the means. Doing this could be hard to get the athlete to replicate that investment aacquire for the next competition. I think the many crucial communication to the athlete after a loss is that you still love them, you"re tright here for him, and you"re still on his team and also assistance him no issue what....you desire to give him area to process what is just taken place. There will certainly be plenty of time later on, once they are less emotionally charged, to effectively debrief and assess the correct changes that should be made for their following competition." -Jacob Harman - Head Wrestling Coach at Caldiffer Chapel High School
"Use the eactivities of loss as the fuel for your fire.. Now you recognize what needs to be functioned on. I shed 2 fights ago to back to come earlier and also win the belt a couple of years later. Anger, emovement , embarrassment is a motivator you cannot put a price on." Rob McCullough, former MMA World Champ
"When someone loses a fight/complement, this is what I tell them, initially - I check to see if the timing is ideal for me to talk, then once it"s best, I ask them just how they feel they did family member to the game setup. Did they stick to the game setup, what functioned and also what didn"t. What did you learn from this enhance in spite of the loss. It might not be the appropriate time for this because of the heightened eactivity, yet at some suggest you need to see what you"ve learned so that you make a positive out of the negative." - Mario Soto. Sports Psychologist
"Discover every little thing you deserve to from it and relocate on. Your most vital fight is your next one." - Rich Chou, RVCA Sport Division
"Keep your head up. Remember youngsters It"s simply one more match prior to high school. Wrestle as many kind of of them as you have the right to the awards are just a bonus compared to the worth of the exposure." Bobby Williams, Head Wrestling Coach a Surfside Wrestling
"A bump in the road is not the finish of the road. Let"s learn from loss, made the vital adjustments and relocate forward" Jachild House - Manager and Owner of Iridium Sports Agency