I want to explain exactly how someone is saying something however covert behind their words they are blaming the perkid they are talking to. It"s sort of like sarcasm yet not rather as solid. With sarcasm the meaning is apparent and also it"s intended to hurt. With the case I"m describing it"s not really around cutting dvery own the other person and also making yourself feel smart, more favor blaming them for something that went wrong and also feeling sorry at the same time. The speaker isn"t really trying to hit the listener through the concealed meaning, however through just a tiny bit of effort the listener have the right to infer the extra definition in the speaker"s words.

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If sarcasm does not describe this, then what does? What words or phrases deserve to be used?

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I think "subtext" is what you"re after: in this situation, a subtext of blame.

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answered Jun 22 "11 at 20:14

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People regularly make insinuating, or suggestive remarks.

From The Free Dictionary:


Provoking progressive doubt or suspicion; suggestive: insinuating remarks.

Arttotally contrived to gain favor or confidence; ingratiating.

It could be shelp at times, depending, that they are engaging in subterfuge.

Aget, from The Free Dictionary:


A deceptive stratagem or device: "the paltry subterfuge of an anonymous signature" (Robert Smith Surtees).

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I think you might be thinking of (or trying to think of) condescension.

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answered Jun 23 "11 at 0:29

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An example of such a statement:

I am sorry you lost manage of your automobile.

While you are sorry, you are placing complete blame on the driver. This is ridiculously common in prayer groups through a lot much less subtlety:

Lord, please help Jakid realize he is a jackass.

As such, the gamut runs from cleverly hidden to exceptionally overt. Close calls for equivalent terms:

double entendre — a expression through a twin meaning (usually sexual)doublespeak — flipping the definition or use of a phrase in an attempt to disguise the truth (e.g. a boy called Girl)euphemism — softening a phrase to minimize its emotional or social impactmisdirection — illustration attention to somepoint through the intent of maintaining the focus ameans from a various thingindirectness — "avoiding straight mention or exposition of a subject"

The last one gets my individual vote:

He instraight shelp it was my fault.

With some indirectness, my boss reminded me I was late.

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"Welcome earlier," my mommy sassist — which was an instraight method to chastise me for leaving in the initially location.