I"m currently having a situation where an ex-girlfrifinish dated someone for a little under 2 months, and also is now earlier saying that she made a horrible mistake and realizes that I am the one for her. I"m skeptical about reconciliation bereason the breakup shattered me, as I did not initiate it and I"m no longer sure I deserve to trust her.

 

So my question goes out to human being that have actually remained in equivalent cases. I"d really like to hear the allude of view of "dumpers" that finished the partnership but then went back. What was it about the rebound that renders you realize you made a mistake? Why did it take dating someone else to make you realize it?

 

And likewise I"d favor to hear the allude of view of "dumpees" who did take their exes earlier. Did it work? Were you able to foroffer them?

 

At the minute I uncover I am having actually a very tough time forgiving and also forgaining the connection she had inbetween our separation. Even if I know it was her best to date other people as we were separated.

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Rustysuit


Posted July 24, 2017

Rustysuit

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Posted July 24, 2017

It was a instance of the GIGS (grass is green on the other side). Happens all the time.

 

Never before taken place to me, so I don"t really have actually the best advice except to follow your heart. See if your ex is being sincere as soon as she states you"re the one for her. She has to obtain your trust back. THat can take time. Exordinary that to her.

 

If you love her, I say give it another shot, civilization rebound and go ago to their ex all the moment after they see the grass isn"t greener at all. Just do not come to be a doormat.

 

You also could desire to things slow at initially and also see wbelow she stands.


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Griffey


Posted July 24, 2017

Griffey

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Posted July 24, 2017

Be careful. I"ve been broken up with before multiple times, but just simply freshly have I had an ex that continually tries to reconcile. We"ve tried 3 times to reconcile and it"s failed each time. Going with it right currently. One thing that I have trouble obtaining previous is, why did you break up via me in the initially place? I didn"t break up via you so what"s your deal? Will you do it aget, have the right to I ever before trust you?

 

Even though you were the BF and this other dude was the rebound, be wary that you"re the rebound of the rebound. I"m beginning to think it doesn"t job-related. You can"t obtain back with an ex after a breakup (prefer a genuine breakup not prefer a at some point break up), unmuch less there"s a LONG TIME of NC and also everyone is a various perkid.


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ParisPaulette


Posted July 25, 2017

ParisPaulette

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Posted July 25, 2017

Dumpee who took him back six times after he"d come earlier saying he made a disastrous mistake. I wish I hadn"t done so, it was a serious red flag. Because inevitably he"d uncover someone else and be off aobtain and also after a little bit it just became that I was tbelow to be the port in the storm for when points went wrong. Until the day I gained tired of it and also quit taking him earlier.

 

Why they come ago to you after a rebound is the best worry I think. If they damaged up with the other perkid soon after going via them, having actually realized "Wait, what am I doing?" then I think and also have observed those relationships can last.

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But if they come ago to you because the various other perboy kicked them out or broke it off or just wasn"t willing to put up with toxic behaviors they could have actually in general, then no. It will never work-related, because that perchild isn"t back with you because they desire you, they came earlier bereason they can not exist without someone validating their existence/stoking their ego. And those types of civilization make lousy relationships.